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she does sound like a b***h.

i have a friend who doesn't get on well with her mother either. i theorised that it could be a territorial thing.

i think that when a girl hits her teens, her mother's territorial instincts begin to kick in as she feels her position as the dominant female in the family is threatened. i reckon this subconscious, primal instinct is what can lead to a change in her attitude regarding her daughter. i think it also leads the mother to let her husband and sons get away with murder, as she tries to ingraciate herself with them to reaffirm her dominance in the family.

i dunno what you think of this idea, but it was just an epiphany that hit me a little while ago.

other than that all i can say is that sometimes relationships with family don't work out and that it can sometimes be in everyone's best interest to stay apart. i don't know enough about your family to say much on whether it works well or not, but i think it's worth asking yourself, "are things ever likely to improve?" and if not to seriously consider that perhaps everybody will be happier and more at peace apart.

but as i say, i don't really know, so these are just some ideas to throw at you. sweatdrop

actually, i've been told to write a book a lot lately. :sweat: it's tempting, but i wouldn't know what to write it about. and it'd take forever to finish- i'm terrible when i go off on a rant. a family full of men?!?! sounds even more like the territorial theory might be true in your family. if it helps, all the girls i know who are from families with lots of men in them are as cool as my tie-dye shirts. now that's cool. 8) :3nod: 8) i guess because they grow up as freaks. and i <3 freaks... as for the closer to your age and gender they get, the more you dislike them thing, is it just the case with family? i'm exactly like that myself, but it's with everybody, not just family. when it comes to friendships, i don't get along with other boys as a general rule, and i prefer people either considerably older or considerably younger than me. i can only get on with people my age if they're female (like you, for example), and i can only get on with a guy if they're of a different age. there are only a few guys of my age who when i meet them i don't feel a primal desire to rip their testicles off. i try to like them, but they just piss me off so much. wow, this comment's getting rather long. my final point, about your dad taking your mother's side to avoid a fight. my dad does the same to me. i never understood why even when my mum was being so irrational, he still took her side. he himself should know better, having been on the recieving end of her temper too many times... turned out, my mum was telling him she was thinking of commiting suicide, and he was just taking her side coz he was scared she'd kill herself if he didn't. so no matter how evil and irrational she is to me, he'll still take her side because she's blackmailed him into it. ******** great. it's ok for him- he divorced her. it's not his problem anymore... :stare: but don't take it personally with your dad, a man's wife is his everything. if somebody is important enough to a guy to commit to sharing his entire life with her and only her; to live with her, in your dad's case have children with her, to build his entire life around her, then to him that somebody is always gonna be right, even if she's wrong. you're married yourself now, so you'll now be the one to always recieve the benefit of the doubt from your hubby. i mean think about it. i don't know if you want kids or not, but if you ever did have them, then no matter how much you love them, i think you'll still always love your husband more. and the last thing you'll want is to see him and them fighting.