The thing that really irritates me is that at one point they were actually pretty good friends. Very close. They got each others sense of humor. They had some of the same insecurities and didn't judge each other for them. They'd known each other a while and cohabitated in the same group of close friends.
Now, they can't stand each other. One feels as if the other is constantly judgeing. The other is constantly judgeing. And vice versa. I mean you'd think that if they didn't enjoy being judged, they wouldn't do it to each other. This is not the case. Two people with rageing insecurities, but over all very cool personalities and lives, can't find any common ground. Really, the only difference is one is a close minded prude and one is an exhibitionist. I'm a prude and I get on great with the exhibitionist. I'm also very accepting of foreign ideas, even when I don't agree with them. That is one of the reasons the prude cites for being my friend.
Oh, and the prude and the exhibitionist shareing that same sense of humor? That's the part I never got but respected about their friendship. They get each other. The prude will say something I can't understand how it can't be offensive, even if it is highlighting the stupidity of people who genuinely feel that way, and the exhibitionist laughs. They also share a lot of physical humor that makes my prude radar falter in shock.
I understand why, if they met each other today, they wouldn't instantly connect. They both have very different lifestyles, but they aren't lifestyles that couldn't make room for each other. As far as I can tell, they both woke up one morning and decided, "I'm sick of this s**t. I don't like ~insert stupid reason to abandon a friendship~ and I'm not going to put up with it anymore" Maybe I shouldn't say stupid reason. Their differences aren't by any means negligible. But I have always been of the philosophy that any reason beyond psychological or physical distress caused by the other person, is a stupid reason to abandon a friendship.
Nothing in life is perfect. Relationships change and grow or naturally wither a bit. But the only reason for them to die is because people have stopped recognizing and appreciating the value they once found in those relationships. To much s**t happens in the sixty plus years we beings are given on this earth for us to lightly, lazily, or dismissively throw away the connections we have formed in that time. Because at one point in our lives, those connections were all that keept us afloat through the s**t.
Sadly, it is a distinct possibility that I am wrong. I don't think so. I have enough experience of this concept to feel that I know I'm right. But two people I love and respect certainly seem to act like I'm wrong. Unfortunately, part of loving them is letting them make their own stupid decisions. It's just so very very wasteful of an opportunity in life. One of my favorite quotes of all time is as follows:
"People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeeemed; never throw anyone out."
-Audrey Hepburn
-Audrey Hepburn
People should just do what I want them to. Their lives wouldn't be perfect because I am by no means good at living, but I'm pretty sure if they did what I wanted, even if only for a short time, they'd be surprised to see that they aren't perfect at living either. Maybe they would actually learn something.
'Course human beings are notoriously dense. When I hope for our species survival and spiritual growth, I think in terms of millenia, not just my lifetime. So, who knows, maybe these two would never abide by my unspoken rule; regardless, of how much power I do or don't have to enforce it.
That is not my way of conceeding defeat. The war rages on. To victory!
I hope you enjoyed this rant of a gaian. It was brought to you by wakeing thoughts, random tangents, and unfocused irritation.
