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So...
I am now single... for the time being...
My long time girlfriend... no... pretty much my wife... is confused right now and dosent know what she wants...
Now, we've been together for YEARS now... not gonna get into detail of how long... but we've been together long enough.
Well... it starts out one night, at a halloween party. It's me, her, and the german foreign exchange student I am hosting.
Well... everything was fine that night. And the whole night, she had been giving me this look like "hey sexy"... the whole time. We both knew what was on both our minds...
When we left the party, first we took the german kid, and dropped him off at my house... and on the ride to my girlfriends house, she squeezed my leg, if you know what I mean...
Well... thats what really got me going... once we got to her home, things got going... but then she said she was tired and needed sleep... ? well... I'm not one to push anything onto someone... so... I just kinda accepted it and lied down next to her and slept...
well... one thing led to another... and for whatever reason... I guess she felt sorry for me or something... and gave in... we then got back into it... and yeah... well... later that night... she called me and said that it was mistake... well... yeah... we got past it and now we are on this different issue...
She told me one night after I picked her up from work... that she is confused... I asked her about what... she said about us... she is confused about whether she needs a boyfriend... or a bestfriend... through college...
See... we are both seniors... going to the same college... and we are gonna move into an apartment together...
well... yeah... right now... she dosent know what she wants...

About two days ago... she said that we rushed into things into our relationship... she said that we need to learn to burn slowley... meaning that in our relationship... we burned very quickly...

I dont want to lose her... this wasnt a love that is like most middle school or high school relationships where it is like "OMG I love you!" right off the bat.
This was a love that grew over time, trust, and commitment. And I do not want to lose that!
I just want her back.
She said that she needs some time to herself, to sort things through and figure out what she wants...
And I will give her all the time in the world if she needs it... but it's been a little over a week now and my patience is getting a little tired...

Yesterday I realized that I needed to learn patience from a quote on the church sign next to my school.

"Patience is a bitter plant that produces sweet fruit."

I will wait... but I want her back now... it feels like an eternity just waiting right now!
I want her back...
I'm not going to beg on my knees for her... because that will only scare her... but... it feels like that is all I can do... to ask her what she wants from me and accpet anything and do it!
But I wont... because yeah...

I went by the church yesterday after school... seeking help... the guy I talked to told me to just keep my head up and not let myself drown in my own sorrow...
Also... he said that it would be a good idea to bring my girlfriend along on Sunday...
It's what my teacher did for her and her husband... they were in the same situation as I and they went to church... and that is what brought them closer together...

Someone... please help...

Can someone please help me...