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Here's something i found in an ED forum that i thought kicked a**....please note to whoever reads this and takes offense to it, i did not, i repeat did not write this. i simply thought it was kewl and decided to post it in my journal. if u don't like it then please don't comment. no one's forcing to read this...i know i'm gonna get flamed for this anyway but oh well....have fun

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"This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last,
that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and
bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very
point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder
to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who
hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently
outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of
the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy
their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know
most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys
with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This
is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every facet, from her
privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends
back from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door,
for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest
of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing
for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play
by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys
who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don't end up
being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked,
underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are
manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone,
and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly
dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And
even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you
assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn't worry about it. This
is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you'd ever
orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked
her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world.
And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing
against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her
concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for
that time she didn't have a date, so after numerous vows that there
was nothing "serious" between the two of you, she dragged you to a
party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted
shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by
announcing to everyone: "oh, but we're just friends!" And even though
you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went
anyways. Because you're nice like that.

The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps
more disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they
should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't.
From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from
talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only
conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical,
manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice
guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational,
confusing things such as "oh, he's too nice to date" or "he would be a
good boyfriend but he's not for me" or "he already puts up with so
much from me, I couldn't possibly ask him out!" or the most
frustrating of all: "no, it would ruin our friendship." Yet, they
continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they
expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize
for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my
ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection breaks down
between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I'm going
to sleep with this complete a** now!). But one thing I can do, is say
that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn't last forever. There
are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and
realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for
granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier,
finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice
guys. You know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself
described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the
world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open
of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a
sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you
tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless
hero, my accolades, my acknowledgment, and my gratitude go out to you.
You do have credibility in this society, and your well-deserved
vindication is coming."

So, hope that helps. If it does, PM me.