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Hey guys (: I hope you're all doing well.
I decided to make a journal because I wanted to raise a little bit of awareness and I want to help anyone I can.
So we all know that bullying is a problem but I don't think we always realize how big of a problem it is.
Some bullies are physical, some are emotional, and in the world of text messages and Internet access, some bullies we never even meet face to face.
But I want to assure you guys that most of the time bullies actually do have something that they're insecure about and that's what makes them bully you. Because in a way there's something about you that intimidates them and that's why they want to pick on you and be mean to you. It makes them feel like they have the upper hand.
The victim of a bully feels helpless, lost. A lot of times they figure "Why should I stay on this earth if no one likes me and if I feel so alone?" Often they feel as if there is no way out and the only outlet for their pain is to hurt themselves or others. I want you to know that that's not true and there is a way out.
This is coming from personal experience. I was bullied for most of my life and it really messed me up in a lot of ways. When I was in school there were times when I truly believed I was worthless because everyone picked on me, they called me "fat", "ugly", you name it. I would come home and tell my mom about it and she would make me feel better but I'd just go back to school the next day and face the same thing over and over again, day after day. I felt like I had no purpose and nobody liked me. All I wanted to do was come home and cry. And there were times when I didn't think I was strong enough to carry on.
And I'm sure a lot of you are going through the same thing. Words hurt. And I know how bad it feels to be called names, day after day, or to be tortured and picked on. It's one of the worst feelings in the world and you feel like there's something wrong with you. But THAT IS NOT TRUE. There is nothing wrong with you. The most anyone can ask of you is that you be a loving, caring person. And if you are, there's nothing wrong with you. It's THE BULLY who is wrong because they don't know how to care and love. Just like you need an outlet for your pain, so do the bullies who pick on you. Their outlet is being mean to others because they think it makes them a bigger person. But that's not true at all. When you talk about someone else, it says more about YOU than it does them.
There were a particular group of girls who loved to torment me. They said I was ugly, fat, and poor. Looking back on it now I realize I would much rather be ugly, fat, and poor than to be the kind of person who would say that to an innocent person. Remember that whatever a bully may say about you, any of it is better than actually being a bully yourself. When you belittle someone else, you actually make yourself look like a small person.
I know it's hard to ignore some of the things people do and say but just remember that you are above them. And please don't ever change or hurt yourself just to gain the acceptance of someone else because one of these days you will find THE RIGHT PEOPLE who love you and accept you for everything you are. I promise, I promise, I promise. I can't say that enough.
As time grew on I met friends who truly liked me for me and I was blessed with finding my amazing boyfriend who I have every intention of spending my life with forever. I am living proof that it does get better. And it will.
Sometimes it takes a lot of effort, and sometimes it takes a lot of time but I promise you everything will get better. Try new things with new people and you will find the right people who want to be around you, and they don't want you to change. I know it seems like those people aren't out there but they are! And they understand you and most of them have been through the same thing you have. So they know what it's like. And they're there to accept you with open arms. THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL. Even if you think there's not <3 I promise there is, and you will find your way out.
Time will never erase the scars on your heart that a bully leaves, but from those scars we grow into stronger people. Good people, who learn to accept others and not judge them by their shape, size, or color. And it's a beautiful thing. One day you can teach your children that it's wrong to intentionally hurt others and they, too, will grow from your experience.
If you leave here knowing anything, know that you are not alone and there are people in this world who will help you see the light. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, please reach out to a counselor or a trusted adult because there is someone who can help you, I guarantee you. And please just never give up. You were put on this earth for a reason, you will achieve great things in this life and please don't let someone's words or actions affect how your life will play out. This life is your canvas and you, and only you, have the paintbrush in your hand. Paint something beautiful and never give up on it.
 yay_its_molly · Wed Mar 20, 2013 @ 06:12am · 0 Comments |
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